Therapy focused on couples, relationships, and sexuality
Welcome to Relational Connection Counseling. We are Nichole Aiken, Nan Long Tilbury, and Douglas Green, Licensed Professional Counselors. We trained together, practice together, and strongly believe in our work and our calling.
We are relational growth and healing experts who help people with sexuality, betrayal trauma, sexually compulsive behavior, addiction, and childhood trauma wounds.
OCSB OR SEX ADDICTION THERAPY
Out-of-control sexual behavior (OCSB) or what some call sex addiction is described as a compulsive need to perform sexual acts in order to achieve the kind of “fix” that a person with alcohol use disorder gets from a drink. For some people, this condition can be highly dangerous and result in extreme difficulties with relationships. Like drug or alcohol dependence, it has the potential to negatively impact a person’s physical and mental health, personal relationships, quality of life, and safety. It may manifest as a compulsive need to masturbate, view pornography, or be in sexually stimulating situations. A person with these problems may significantly alter their life and activities in order to perform sexual acts, and is unable to control their behavior despite severe negative consequences.
BETRAYED PARTNER TRAUMA THERAPY
For the person in a primary relationship with a sex addict, betrayal trauma is devastating. The revealed secret sexual behaviors of the most trusted person in one’s life is emotionally shattering. It is a gut-wrenching experience that plagues you day and night. Betrayal is broken trust, deception, and treachery.
The person you thought your partner was is now viewed as a dangerous adversary, and one’s worthiness, sexuality, safety, and desireability is all completely compromised. A betrayed partner feels separated from his or her own reality, and benefits from gentle therapeutic treatment, empathy, guidance, and help with boundary-setting.
OCSB OR SEX ADDICTION THERAPY
Out-of-control sexual behavior (OCSB) or what some call sex addiction is described as a compulsive need to perform sexual acts in order to achieve the kind of “fix” that a person with alcohol use disorder gets from a drink. For some people, this condition can be highly dangerous and result in extreme difficulties with relationships. Like drug or alcohol dependence, it has the potential to negatively impact a person’s physical and mental health, personal relationships, quality of life, and safety. It may manifest as a compulsive need to masturbate, view pornography, or be in sexually stimulating situations. A person with these problems may significantly alter their life and activities in order to perform sexual acts, and is unable to control their behavior despite severe negative consequences.
BETRAYED PARTNER TRAUMA THERAPY
For the person in a primary relationship with a sex addict, betrayal trauma is devastating. The revealed secret sexual behaviors of the most trusted person in one’s life is emotionally shattering. It is a gut-wrenching experience that plagues you day and night. Betrayal is broken trust, deception, and treachery.
The person you thought your partner was is now viewed as a dangerous adversary, and one’s worthiness, sexuality, safety, and desireability is all completely compromised. A betrayed partner feels separated from his or her own reality, and benefits from gentle therapeutic treatment, empathy, guidance, and help with boundary-setting.
“You won’t develop courage by being happy in your relationships everyday. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.”
~ Epicurus
SEX THERAPY
Through sex therapy, concerns can be addressed about sexual function, sexual feelings and desires, and intimacy. Sex therapy can be effective for individuals of any age, gender or sexual orientation. Couples and indivudals both benefit from this therapy.
COMMON STRUGGLES
- Sexual desire or arousal
- Concerns about sexual interests or sexual orientation
- Impulsive or compulsive sexual behavior
- Erectile functioning
- Premature ejaculation
- Mismatched partner desire
- Trouble reaching orgasm (anorgasmia)
- Painful intercourse (dyspareunia)
- Intimacy issues related to a disability or chronic condition
- Concerns regarding past unwanted sexual experiences
- Anxiety about sexuality
- Asexual marriages
NICHOLE AIKEN, LPC, CSAT, CPTT
Nichole Aiken is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and a Certified Partner Trauma Therapist whose work focuses primarily on encouraging the relational healing and post-traumatic growth of relationally betrayed partners. Those who have been impacted by the sexual and emotional betrayal of infidelity, sex addiction, or compulsive sexual behavior in their primary relationship will find Nichole’s expertise and compassion of extreme value.
Nichole is trained in Brainspotting, a powerful, focused therapy approach which works by helping people locate, process, and release sources of emotional and physical pain and trauma where it has been suppressed in the brain.
Through both individual and group therapy, Nichole is trained to provide expert support and guidance for a betrayed partner’s healing, clarity, and growth. Her empathetic and sensitive style along with her clear modeling of boundaries define her work as a therapist.
Call Nichole: 571.367.9083
naiken@nicholeaiken.com
NAN LONG TILBURY, LPC, CSAT, CDWF
Nan Tilbury is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist who focuses primarily on working with individuals with out of control sexual behavior, repeated infidelity, sex addiction, or general sexual difficulties. She is currently completing her training as a board-certified sex therapist, which enables her to help both individuals and couples with all aspects of human sexuality and relationships.
Through her work in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), Nan helps people to heal from the symptoms and emotional distress that are the result of disturbing life experiences or relational trauma.
Nan is certified in Dr. Brené Brown’s Daring Way™ protocol, which focuses on courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy. These concepts are weaved through her individual therapy, group therapy, and workshops. Her direct approach and sense of humor are the trademarks of her work.
Call Nan: 816.686.6277
nanlongtilbury@relationskills.com
DOUGLAS GREEN, MA, LPC, CSAT
His experience includes working in a private practice setting, community-based and non-profit organizations, residential treatment facilities, crisis centers, subacute detoxification and rehabilitation, day treatment (partial hospitalization, and outpatient treatment programs).
Doug employs a combination of dialectical-behavioral therapy (DBT) and emotionally focused therapy (EFT), along with a strength-based philosophy in his work with individuals, couples, families, and group therapy. His goal is to help guide people to a healthy recovery that addresses the entire person, not just their diagnosis. In addition, Doug brings knowledge, years of experience, and a compassionate approach to his work.
Call Douglas: 571.208.2056
NICHOLE AIKEN, LPC, CSAT, CPTT
Nichole Aiken is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist and a Certified Partner Trauma Therapist whose work focuses primarily on encouraging the relational healing and post-traumatic growth of relationally betrayed partners. Those who have been impacted by the sexual and emotional betrayal of infidelity, sex addiction, or compulsive sexual behavior in their primary relationship will find Nichole’s expertise and compassion of extreme value.
Nichole is trained in Brainspotting, a powerful, focused therapy approach which works by helping people locate, process, and release sources of emotional and physical pain and trauma where it has been suppressed in the brain.
Through both individual and group therapy, Nichole is trained to provide expert support and guidance for a betrayed partner’s healing, clarity, and growth. Her empathetic and sensitive style along with her clear modeling of boundaries define her work as a therapist.
Call Nichole: 571.367.9083
naiken@nicholeaiken.com
NAN LONG TILBURY, LPC, CSAT, CDWF
Nan Tilbury is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist who focuses primarily on working with individuals with out of control sexual behavior, repeated infidelity, sex addiction, or general sexual difficulties. She is currently completing her training as a board-certified sex therapist, which enables her to help both individuals and couples with all aspects of human sexuality and relationships.
Through her work in EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing), Nan helps people to heal from the symptoms and emotional distress that are the result of disturbing life experiences or relational trauma.
Nan is certified in Dr. Brené Brown’s Daring Way™ protocol, which focuses on courage, vulnerability, shame, and empathy. These concepts are weaved through her individual therapy, group therapy, and workshops. Her direct approach and sense of humor are the trademarks of her work.
Call Nan: 816.686.6277
nanlongtilbury@relationskills.com
DOUGLAS GREEN, MA, LPC, CSAT
His experience includes working in a private practice setting, community-based and non-profit organizations, residential treatment facilities, crisis centers, subacute detoxification and rehabilitation, day treatment (partial hospitalization, and outpatient treatment programs).
Doug employs a combination of dialectical-behavioral therapy (DBT) and emotionally focused therapy (EFT), along with a strength-based philosophy in his work with individuals, couples, families, and group therapy. His goal is to help guide people to a healthy recovery that addresses the entire person, not just their diagnosis. In addition, Doug brings knowledge, years of experience, and a compassionate approach to his work.
Call Douglas: 571.208.2056